Props to Jamye Waxman for pointing me to this article up on iVillage. It’s an excerpt from author Steve Santagati’s book ‘The MANual’ where he tries to list out what physical things, such as clothing and whatnot that men notice about women. You may want to hop over there and read it and then come back, because I’m going to share my feelings about this. So go ahead. I’ll wait….. Done? OK, let’s continue.

My first thoughts after reading it were that it sounds a lot like what HE notices/wants in a women with a few generic things tossed in. Lingerie I can agree with. In both that I love it on a woman, and that she feels sexier wearing it (or so my wife tells me). Plus we run a lingerie store, so it’s just good for business to say “Every woman should buy lingerie…. from Silver Stars…. frequently.”

Shoes, I somewhat agree with. Although there are lots of foot fetish folks out there who would have a stroke at his views that men just don’t care and never notice them. I say somewhat though because I think it is a part of a complete package. If shoes are doing what they should in an outfit, they should blend well and accentuate the whole. In my experience, if I notice the shoes, they are either garish, or they look painful.

His hair opinions are where I realized this is just what he likes. This statement here was a giveaway:

Your style, color and texture are no matter. Your hair only needs to have a clean, tousled, just-out-of-bed look.

I’ve seen really sexy women with all types of hair styles and I don’t find my wandering eyes drifting to any particular configuration. Long, short, I like it all. And I can appreciate a hot ‘fresh from the salon’ look as much as a ‘just out of bed look’. Bald… not so much. Ash got her hair colored red awhile back, and suddenly guys everywhere were telling her how hot her hair was. No change, other than the color. So his point was just refuted completely.

He goes on with some more generic crap about ‘pick a dress that accentuates your best body parts’ (no kidding) and some others of his opinions that he passes off as what ‘guys’ want.

You want to know what I think? My opinion is that each style and personality can be sexy. I can see some girls out in just the plainest t-shirt and jeans and think, “Wow, she’s gorgeous.” And when I take a second to focus on her individual features, they can be pretty ‘plain Jane’. It’s more about the way she carries herself and what fits her personality. It’s about finding the look that you are comfortable with.

I’ve seen women before, especially at formal gatherings, who are dressed to the nines in what should be a knockout outfit. But it’s obvious that is so far from who they are that they look like they are completely miserable. So the eyes wander right on by without a second glance. By the same token, this could be the same girl in the t-shirt and jeans and in that, she’s a stunner.

So since we’re all sharing (and please feel free to share your ideas in the comments below), that’s my opinion. I love girls who dress to fit their own style and attitude. Nothing is sexier than a comfortable woman…. except for a woman in lingerie (hint, hint)

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